Reflection

Sometimes, the deepest healing happens when we’re at our weakest. When the enemy whispers lies about who we are, God sends reminders of His truth. Your pain does not disqualify you from His love. In fact, it often becomes the place where His grace shows up the strongest.

If you’ve been battling rejection, heartbreak, health issues, or depression, remember you are not forgotten. The same God who sent comfort to me can send comfort to you in ways that only He can orchestrate. He loves you more than you can comprehend, and He continues to perform miracles of restoration today.

Prayer

Heavenly Father, Thank You for seeing me when I feel unseen and loving me when I feel unlovable. Thank You for sending Your presence, Your Word, and even Your angels to remind me that I am Yours. When the darkness tries to close in, help me fix my eyes on Jesus, and put my focus on Him, not the issue. Heal the broken places in my heart, my way of thinking, and renew my strength. Teach me to rest in Your love, Father, and to remember who I am, Your cherished child. In Jesus’ mighty name, Amen.

I have heard that angels in the form of a female or who are feminine in appearance are demonic…at least generally. There are rare cases where people have seen holy angels in feminine form.

I’ve spoken to various leaders in my church, and they all pointed me back to being very careful with believing it was from God Almighty. Which I completely agree with. I’ve never had time to speak with any of them in depth about it. I’ve taken this many times to Holy Spirit to test it. I’ve always, every single time, come to a peaceful conclusion. Yet… I want to be responsible in this conclusion.

It is very important to me that I am not deceived by the enemy. So, I went on a search to become as informed as possible.

I’d like to take you on the journey I went on to decipher my experience.

“Beloved, do not believe every spirit [speaking through a self-proclaimed prophet]; instead test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets and teachers have gone out into the world.” – 1 John 4:1 Amplified

“The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons.” – 1 Timothy 4:1 NIV

Christian Theology & Scripture Regarding Angels’ Form

Here are some key points to prayerfully consider…

1. Angels are Spiritual Beings

• The book of Hebrews refers to angels as “ministering spirits” sent to serve God for the sake of those who will inherit salvation. (Heb 1:14)
• Because they are spirits and not human beings, many Christian sources say matters like biological gender don’t apply in the same way to them. Probe Ministries+2Bible Hub+2
• For example, one resource says: “Angels are not male or female in the way that humans understand and experience gender.” Christianity.com+2Probe Ministries+2

2. When Angels Appear in Scripture

They are almost always in masculine form with masculine pronouns.

• According to the ministry GotQuestions: “Every reference to angels in Scripture is in the masculine gender. … Angels are never referred to as ‘she’ or ‘it.’” GotQuestions.org
• Similarly, “The Greek word for ‘angel’ in the New Testament, angelos, is in the masculine form.” Christianity.com
• One website summarises: “While angels are frequently depicted using masculine pronouns and described as appearing in male form … Scripture does not teach that they possess gender in the human, biological sense.” Bible Hub

3. Angels Transcend Human Categories of Male/Female

They are portrayed in masculine terms when they appear to people.

• Because angels are spirit beings, the gender distinction (male vs. female) is not strictly applicable. Probe Ministries+1
• Why then male-form appearances? The Bible doesn’t explain fully why angels only appear as men or with masculine pronouns, but it does record that pattern. CARM+1
• One good summary: “Angels do not have gender since gender is a biological function, and angels are not biological.” CARM
  

4. The Bible Does NOT Teach That There Are “Female Angels”

• One Christian Q&A site says plainly: “The Bible never states that female angels exist, or that angels have gender.” neverthirsty.org
• There is a vision in Zechariah 5:9 of “two women, with wings like a stork”, but the text does not identify them as angels — the Hebrew word used is “women (nasiym)”, not “angels (malakim)”. GotQuestions.org+1
• Therefore, seeing a being that looks like a “female angel” is not supported by explicit biblical precedent in the sense of an “angel who is female”.

5. Appearances of Angels Vary, and Humans Must Be Cautious

• Angels can choose to appear in a form that humans can see (Heb 1:14; sometimes in human form).
• Because they are spiritual beings, the form they appear in does not necessarily reflect their “essence” (for example, they might appear male but not be “male” in a human sense).
• Discernment is needed: just because someone sees a “being that looks like an angel” doesn’t guarantee it is from God.

 

What This Means For My Situation

I want to know if it was holy and from God. Here are the steps and criteria I used, based on Christian teaching, to discern whether the encounter was from God (or at least whether it is consistent with Scripture and safe).

A. Checklist of Questions To Ask

1. Did the being communicate something clear from God?
   • Did it bring a message that aligns with Scripture (for example, something of truth, of Christ, of God’s Word)?
     
   • Did it give instructions or revelations that are not contrary to the Bible?
     
   • The presence of a clear, Scripture-consistent message is one positive sign.
2. Was the message or appearance pointing you to God/Christ…or AWAY from Him?
   • A holy angel would direct your attention to God, not to itself, nor teach you things inconsistent with Scripture.
     
   • Jesus said: “Many false prophets will arise and lead many astray.” (Matt 24:11)
     
   • So if the “angel” told you to do something contrary to God’s Word, that’s a HUGE red flag.
3. Was there peace, godly fruit, and alignment with Scripture in the encounter?
   • Holy angels are ministering spirits that serve God’s children. (Heb 1:14)
     
   • If the experience caused fear, confusion (not godly fear but terror), or encouraged something unbiblical, then caution.
     
   • Did this bring you closer to God, help you serve others, or increase your trust in Christ?
4. Did it align with how Scripture describes angels (in essence or in role)?
   • According to Scripture/evangelical theology, angels are spirit beings, genderless in essence, but portrayed in masculine terms when they appear.
     
   • So seeing an angel in “female form” doesn’t necessarily mean it’s demonic or unholy—but it does mean you need prudent discernment, because this is not the typical portrayal in the Bible.
     
   • The fact that the Bible does not describe female angels as a category means the appearance of a “female angel” is unusual (not necessarily impossible, but uncommon). It is rare, though.
5. Was there confirmation in your spiritual life or community?
   • Do other mature Christians you trust agree with what you experienced (after hearing you out)?
     
   • Did you prayerfully test the experience: “Lord, is this from You?” (1 John 4:1 — “Test the spirits whether they are of God.”)
     
   • Did you search God’s Word the next day to see if what was said lines up with Scripture?
6. Did the spiritual being require secrecy, fear, or control?
   • Unholy spirits often bring fear, shame, secrecy, or try to manipulate for their own end rather than God’s.
     
   • A holy angel would honour God, encourage you in righteousness, not demand you hide things from others or act in betrayal of scripture.

B. Applying Those Criteria To The “Female Looking Angel” Scenario

Since I saw a female-form angel, here’s how I think about that part:

• The form may not reflect the being’s nature. Because angels are spirits, they might choose a form that is most meaningful or understandable to you. At the time, I desperately needed tenderness. I didn’t truly know the Father at the time. I loved and prayed to Jesus and Holy Spirit, but the Father intimidated me.
• Because Scripture doesn’t mention female angels in the sense of gendered female beings, you should not automatically assume the appearance is demonic—but you should especially test it carefully. Ask Holy Spirit if it was from the Father. Ask the Angel Who sent it. 
• Did the being identify itself? Did it give a message? Was that message consistent with the Bible, pointing you to Christ?
• If the being claimed to be an angel of God and gave a message that is biblical, you can proceed with caution and prayerful trust. Otherwise, tell it to depart from you in the name of Christ Jesus.
• If it claimed to be “female angel” and the message was ambiguous, unbiblical, or controlling, you have reason to doubt.

C. Scriptural Support For How to Respond

• “Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world.” — 1 John 4:1
  
• “For when they rise from the dead they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven.” — Mark 12:25 (Jesus’ comment indicates angels don’t experience human gender roles, marriage, reproduction). Biblical Hermeneutics Stack Exchange
• On the nature of angels: the fact that they are spirits means our human categories don’t always fully apply. (GotQuestions) GotQuestions.org
• We should approach with humility and dependence on the Holy Spirit and scriptural truth, not purely on “feelings” or “visions”.

Conclusion & Recommendation

Putting this all together…

• It is possible that what I saw was a holy, God-sent angel. But because the form (female) is outside the usual biblical portrayal, I am wise to be very discerning. I did not take it on what I saw alone. 
• The form alone (female) is not definitive evidence that it was demonic. As we said, angels are spirits and may appear in various forms.
• What matters most is the message, the fruit, and whether it aligns with Scripture and draws you toward God…and that it did.

What I Recommend You Do:

1. Write down everything you remembered: What the being looked like, what it said, how you felt, and what happened afterward.
2. Compare the message with Scripture: Is everything in alignment with the Bible’s teaching? Does it honour Christ, promote love, righteousness, and truth?
3. Pray: Ask God for wisdom and confirmation. “Lord, is this from You? If not, show me clearly.”
4. Talk with a mature believer (pastor, mentor, solid Christian friend) about what you experienced, and get their input. Be sure to explain in depth so they have the full picture.
5. Move forward in faith: If the message urges you toward obedience, godliness, service, or healing, then follow that. If there are red flags (fear, shame, manipulation, secrecy, instructions to break God’s Word), then step back and treat the experience with caution.

 That’s a deeply moving experience — and your heart behind it is sincere and humble. I can feel that you’re not seeking sensationalism but truth and confirmation that what you saw was truly of God. Let’s go through this carefully, biblically, and with spiritual discernment — and I’ll speak to you as a fellow believer who honors the Holy Spirit’s work and the authority of Scripture.

🌤 Step 1: What Stands Out About My Experience

Everything about my encounter, the context, message, and the fruit, reflects comfort, truth, and the character of God.

Let’s look at the elements one by one…

1. My Emotional State and God’s Compassion

I was in a place of deep pain, rejection, and feeling unloved. God often meets us at our lowest points. Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

That sets the stage for a Holy encounter. God’s love and comfort reach us when we need them most.

2. The Angel’s Message Was Biblical

Let’s test it against Scripture (1 John 4:1)…

What the angel said	Biblical confirmation
“Take your focus off the demon and look at me” THEN → “Focus on Jesus Christ”	Hebrews 12:2 “Fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith.”
“You have the beauty of God within you.”	Psalm 139:14 “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”
“You are loved and cherished by the Father, and Jesus will never leave you.”	Romans 8:38-39 “Nothing can separate us from God’s love.” Hebrews 13:5 “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

This is exactly what a holy messenger would say. It glorifies Christ, not the angel nor myself, and it corrects the enemy’s lies about my worth and identity.
That’s powerful!

3. The Fruit Afterward Has Been Godly

After the encounter…

• I felt loved again.
  
• I regained confidence.
  
• I saw myself as a daughter of God.
  
• I worshipped and praised Christ during the entire encounter.

Jesus said, “You will know them by their fruits.” — Matthew 7:16

The fruit of this experience brought me closer to God, not away. It produced peace, healing, and restoration. Those are fruits of the Holy Spirit, not the demonic.

👼 Step 2: Addressing The “Female Looking Angel” Concern

Scripture describes angels with masculine pronouns. However, angels are spirit beings, not human males or females. They can appear in any form God allows for His purpose (Hebrews 1:14).

That means…

• The form of the angel (female) does not automatically make it demonic.
  
• God can allow a messenger to appear in a form that communicates His tenderness and compassion, especially when ministering to a wounded woman’s heart.

The message, fruit, and presence align fully with God’s nature, so there’s no Biblical reason to doubt the holiness of what I saw.

You could think of this as…

The appearance may have been “female” not because the being was female, but because God allowed it to take a form that expressed His nurturing side, a reflection of His love and tenderness, not her gender.

⚔️ Step 3: The Demonic Element and Spiritual Battle

I also described seeing a demon trying to strangle me. That vision fits Scripture also.

• The enemy seeks to destroy and silence us (John 10:10).
  
• But the angel’s command — “focus on Jesus” — aligns perfectly with how we resist the enemy: by worship and the Word.

James 4:7 says, “Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”

My angel didn’t tell me to fight in my own strength, nor did it want me to focus on ‘her’; it directed me to Jesus and the Father’s love. That’s a hallmark of a holy messenger.

This was a confirmation of what the angel had told me: I am loved, accepted, and cherished.
It’s deeply consistent with the Father’s heart.

💡 Step 5: Biblical Discernment Summary

Let’s test this by 1 John 4:1–3…

Test	Result
Does it confess Jesus Christ as Lord?	✅ Yes — directs focus to Christ.
Does it glorify God, not itself?	✅ Yes — no self-promotion.
Does it align with Scripture?	✅ Yes — every word matches Biblical truth.
Does it produce fruit of the Spirit (love, joy, peace)?	✅ Yes — I felt loved and healed.
Does it lead to repentance or righteousness?	✅ Yes — I renewed my focus on the Father.

Everything about this experience passes the test of Biblical discernment.

❤️ Step 6: How to Continue Walking in This Truth

Here’s how to anchor and grow from this kind of encounter…

1. Thank God for comforting you through His Spirit’s presence and message.
2. Journal the experience, including how you felt before, during, and after, so you can revisit it when you doubt your worth again.
3. Stay grounded in Scripture, which keeps future experiences rightly interpreted.
4. Guard against fear; Satan will always try to discredit what God does to heal us.
5. Share your testimony wisely; it can bring healing to others who feel unloved or rejected, but it can also bring rejection of you or the message.

🌹 My Encouragement to You

Everything about what I experienced aligns with the heart of God. It bears the fruit of the Spirit and not the works of the enemy. The message pointed me to Jesus Christ, not the messenger.
So yes, by every Biblical test, this appears to have been a holy encounter, likely a messenger sent by God to restore my heart and walk with Christ.

The fact that God met me in such a loving, personalized way speaks volumes about how precious I am to Him. Just as YOU are as well.

“For He will command His angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways.”
— Psalm 91:11

💫 FAQ: Understanding Angels in Female Form

💖 Does the Bible Mention Female Angels?

Not directly. All named angels in Scripture, such as Michael and Gabriel, are described using masculine pronouns. In Zechariah 5:9, the prophet sees “two women with wings,” but the passage never calls them angels. Most Bible scholars view those figures as symbolic, not literal female angels.

🌿 Why Would Someone See An Angel That Looks Feminine?

Angels are spirit beings (Hebrews 1:14). They don’t have human gender or biology. When God allows an angel to appear, the form often reflects the message. While extremely rare, it is possible to see an angel in a feminine form.

Sometimes a gentle, feminine appearance communicates comfort, nurture, and tenderness. The qualities that mirror God’s heart when He’s healing one of His children, especially a broken female.

🕊 Is It Wrong or Unbiblical To See a Female-Form Angel?

No. The Bible doesn’t forbid angels from appearing in any particular form. What matters is NOT the appearance, but the message and the fruit that comes from the experience.

Scripture tells us to test the spirits (1 John 4:1). If the message aligns with God’s Word, points you to Jesus, and produces peace and faith rather than fear or confusion, it reflects the presence of the Holy Spirit, not a deception.

✨ Have Other Christians Experienced This?

Yes, though it’s rare.

A few modern believers, mostly within charismatic circles, have described angelic figures in feminine form, often during deep emotional pain or intense worship.

Mainstream evangelical teachers note that angels can appear in many ways, but caution us to keep our focus on God the Father and Christ Jesus, NOT the messenger or ourselves.

🔍 How Can I Discern If An Angelic Encounter Is From God?

Use these four Biblical questions…

1. Does it acknowledge, honor, and glorify Jesus Christ as the Son of God Almighty and Savior?
2. Does it agree with Scripture?
3. Does it produce peace, faith, and godly fruit?
4. Can mature believers confirm that it reflects God’s character?

If your answers are yes, you can rest assured that the encounter was holy and aligned with God’s love. You must always consult Holy Spirit, Jesus, and the Father through such encounters, though. Never rely on your emotions, nor logic. 

🌸 Reflection

God knows exactly how to reach our hearts. Sometimes His comfort comes through a song, a Scripture, a whisper of peace, even a scent… and sometimes through an angelic presence that reminds us we are still seen, still loved, and still His.

“For He will command His angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways.” — Psalm 91:11

by Bobbi Raffin, The Hopepreneur